From:    Shadow Weaver                          Area: Mundane
To:      Amethyst                               15 Oct 94 07:01:56
Subject: Anouncement                            UpdReq 

Amethyst,
 I read your message and I am so sorry for the things you had to go through.  
But if you think about it, that's what pro-choice is all about. You never had 
a choice.  You were forced into something by someone who, apparently, didn't 
care about anything but her "reputation" and standing in the community.  This 
was a crime and never should have happened.  The choice was not hers, it was 
yours and was denied to you, the same way "pro-lifers" would deny it to 
anyone.
 I feel for you and wish this had never happened to you or anyone else.  I am 
male and may never completely understand, but I know pain when I see it.  I 
for one am willing to help.  I agree with you about abortion for convenience, 
but you are not in a position to know the reasons that women go to abortion 
clinics.  Many of them CAN'T have another child, not for convenience, but for 
survival.  I lieved with a lady at one time.  We loved each other very much 
and were raising her first child.  The economy was shit and while I was 
working, it wasn't for great money, and was temp work.  Having another child 
would have destroyed our family completely.
This was not a case of unprotected sex or carelessness.  The bloody pill 
didn't work.  She was one of those 0.01 unlucky percent for whom the pill 
failed just once.  We didn't know she was pregnant until she was about 6-8 
weeks along, and had continued taking her pills regularly for the entire 
time.  This was not an easy decision for either of us, and neither of us 
regarded the pregnancy as a "lump of flesh."  I went through hell that week 
as we prepared for it.  The day of our appointment, we were sitting in the 
waiting room when a bunch of "people" forced their way into the clinic, 
assaulted a nurse on the way in and chained themselves to the walls, beds, 
and anything else they could find.  This did not make it any easier for 
either of us and added several days to the wait because the doctors would NOT 
go back to the clinic.  
 As I said, I for one, do care.  I don't participate in the protests on either 
side, as you don't.  I don't think there should be protests.  But I will say 
this.  Friends of mine working clinic defense have mentioned to me that they 
have seen screaming women being verbally (and in some cases physically) 
assaulted as they tried to go to a clinic.  Some of these women were there 
for pre-natal care, but none of the mindless morons spouting filth in the 
name of Christ would bother to listen.  They were called whores and sluts for 
daring to be pregnant.  I grant you, both sides make mistakes.  But in the 
long run, I find myself on the side of freedom.  Without these mindless 
idiots, it would be possible to counsel women on all the choices.  But as it 
stands, they are to blame for the repression and lack of information 
preventing such counseling.  They don't want kids to get pregnant, but they 
don't allow them to be taught how NOT to get pregnant.  They put their ideals 
and religion above the welfare of people.  For many of us who believe in 
choice, it's not a score-keeping match.  It's really about choice.  You were 
denied choice, just as they would deny choice to all.  Forcing someone to 
have an abortion, as happened to you, is just as bad as forcing someone to 
keep a child they CAN NOT care for.
 I feel for you and keep you in my thoughts.
 Morgan


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